Do You Want To Love This Person? Accept or Deny.

Love Request?

     So, I glanced at this on the right side of my Facebook page and was like, "Kevin wants to love me? Why Kevin, how forward of you...." Then once I clicked on it, of course, it was like, "Kevin has requested to add your birthday to his calendar!" And I was like, "Awe. No love for Stephanie!" Not that I wanted him to love me or anything....but still.

     So I've hence forth decided that this is how all requests should be, in love or therefore otherwise. 

I think all requests, love or not, but especially love, should be this devoid of feelings. "Accept or Deny?" Click. There ya go. And that's the problem, really....

Feelings

     I spent 2 weeks out of the 3 weeks that I was with one guy just trying to figure out how to break up with him nicely....I even Googled it, because the advice my friends were giving wasn't good enough or each other them were contradicting one another. So Google basically told me not to give him the FINE details [like he was dumb and bad in bed] but that I should just let him know that we weren't on the same page and we just wanted different things in life -like I wanted someone as good in bed as me and as smart as me, but he wanted someone way better in bed than him and far wittier than him. 

     I was so worried about hurting his feelings that I prolonged it because I wanted to do it in the most humane way possible and I was making sure I wasn't being too hasty and ending things when the first "bad" thing came about. --I know, how sweet of me. But it ended badly anyway. He asked for honesty, I told him I didn't see a future with him and I did not want him to be my boyfriend. So then he proceeded to inform me of everything that he thought was wrong with me and put me in my place! Needless to say, people don't handle rejection well.

It's Not Personal, I Just Don't Like You....Personally.

    Weird huh? Telling someone not to take a break up, a rejection of them, not personally. "You're great! Juuuust for someone else!" But when you know what you want and you know that when you're not getting what you want that you're just going to end up hating them in the long run for it, what else can you do but end it? My biggest thing is, "Why do you want to prove to me that you can make me happy if I don't care if you're happy?" 

     Yes there are times when you're going to have to sacrifice things in a relationship and not get your way, but when the scale never tips back in your direction....or let me put it this way, it'd be like being on a teeter totter and always having to be the one on the ground, always keeping the other person high in the air. -Maybe it's about time you jump off and let their ass hit the ground...

     Sometimes you just need to do it. End it. Or jump into it. Depending on what you want. I know it seems like it, but it's not the end of the world. Plus, you don't want to either lose that person by not being ready to jump in or you don't want to hurt that person even more by prolonging something that should have ended long ago. 

     Don't take it too personally, and just let it end. You don't need to have a contest of who's the worst person, "Well you did this, well you did that...." Just know that they don't want to be with you anymore and walk away. Obviously they already made up their mind. And you don't want to have to convince someone to love you, because you're probably going to spend most of the relationship reminding them of why they should/do love you.